So what the hell have we been up to since October, well it
sure wasn’t sleeping, that’s for sure.
So the sleep deprivation continues and we are living on our last nerves
but sure aren’t we always.
My self and
my hubby decided to try for one last baby, with the hope of a girl and we hit
the jackpot, a double whammy so to speak.
5 months of chlomid pill popping, exhaustion but trying to conceive through
it, trying to stay positive and hopeful through the strain of autism, and there
it is, 6 months of trying finally a positive pregnancy test after a little miss
the previous month. We are over the moon, nervous but over the moon.
I was wiped out, omg it must be a girl I thought
to myself, only a girl could make me feel this sick and this tired, I slept and
puked for 14 weeks solid.
I lost nearly
2 stone.
An accident with Mr fab landed
me in hospital at 14 weeks pregnant, a little bleed and a nervous me went to
A&E with my dear friend Sue, all was fine but a scan to be on safe side
revealed 2 babies, not just 1, WHAT, omg WHAT, you are shitting with me right,
NO oh f**k, it really is twins.
Mixed
emotions, from happy to shitting it to happy to denial to how the hell am I going
to manage twins in my crazy house.
December was the hardest ever Mr fab wise, school holidays
came, and he went insane with boredom. I
had no energy for the poor kid, and he was becoming a little bit aggressive and
very frustrated, hold on, this is not my kid, what the hell is this about, he’d
wake at 3/4 am in chronic tantrum and full on aggression, hitting, kicking,
pinching, biting, screaming, the whole 9 yards, but this wasn’t just at night,
it was all day every day. My poor
baby. I sobbed and sobbed (hormones
added to that). I was so distraught to
see him in such a bad way, and confused as this was not typical behaviour from
him at all. My hubby and I tried
everything, nothing worked, we even resorted to sedation, again didn’t work. This is not funny anymore, what the hell is
wrong with my son. Christmas was pure
misery, he just threw tantrums and self injured himself the whole way through, we
never got a break from the screaming.
Our cuddle monster rejected all form of touch, sympathy, consoling
everything. Eventually school started
back, ah now this will get him back to himself, unfortunately it did not, ok we
need professional help now.
We have now got a behavioural psychologist on board,
brilliant, let’s go, how do we fix this and get my little happy Mr Fab back to
himself. Trials, errors and record
keeping, that’s how. Mr Fab gets respite
2 days a week as his aggression has caused me injury on several occasions when
DH not here. A move we never imagined we
would ever have to make, Mr Fab away from home, never sure we would never need
that kind of service, em yes we do. The first
few weeks of respite I sobbed and was heart broke at what I was doing to my
son, eh didn’t take me long to get over it, swimming, horse riding, trips to
parks, yep he was living the high life and I, us, we where far from his
mind. After nearly 2 months we have cracked it, my
poor child had a gastric bug just before Xmas, a nasty one at that. It must have ate away part of his intestinal
tract and now any msg or citric acid was literally burning Mr Fab from the
inside out. Yes my orange juice and
orange loving fan was in pain from one of his favourite foods, oranges, jellies
and noodles. Can it really be that
simple, YES it can? Elimination of all
jellies, citric acid and msg and now I have my wonderful happy Mr fab back to
himself.
So one sorted, 2 to go, Crazy Jane still as mad as ever, omg
she’ll be the death of me that girl. Still
got all sorts of crazy going on in her whacked out mind, still anxious and now
OCD has come back with a vengeance (well it never really left but did improve) weight
issues, paranoia and now we got mild self harming to add to the long list of
many behaviours. Again influences from
school not helping matters with their comments, but let’s face it, this will
always be a problem when it comes to Crazy Jane. She is receiving cognitive
behavioural therapy, she gets on with her psychologist and that’s great, I like
her too but get frustrated at how she takes Crazy at face value, she’s not
great at reading between the lines and looking underneath the surface but at
least she’s helping her so that’s ok. We
will be going for a psychiatric assessment in a few months time so dreading
this. High IQ’s mixed with anxiety and
ocd is pure evil I tell you.
Now for lunatic John, he’s great yes but omg the whinging, I
can’t bare the whinging. Thank god it’s
not just him and all his friends too or id be dragging him to a psychiatrist
and all. It is a phase, but one he had
better hurry up and get past before I kill him.
He flew his 3 year developmental check and the only issue is still his
weight but not much can be done, he is a skinny guy with a very fast metabolism
(so jealous) and that’s just all there is too it.
So this twin pregnancy, weird is all I can use to describe
it, They kill me from the inside out, I got
a left hip being knocked out of place, sciatica, synphis pubis dysfunction and
my back literally feels like it is broke and missing its back bone. Sleep, well between Mr Fab (who has decided 3/4
am wake ups is just gonna be his thing) lunatic john who is whinging in his
sleep but “loudly” and the unborn twins killing me with pain all day and all
night, sleep yet again escapes me, but oddly I have become so used to it that
it seems normal now lol. It’s gonna be
sooooooo much fun when the twins are born, ill never sleep again and may be
popping 20 valume just to get me through the day.
I have 10 weeks left and I am on operation house/garden face
lift. I want a new house and garden for
my new babies. I am enjoying shopping
all round me for them, one boy and one girl.
We are over the moon to finally have a girl to shop for after 6 years of
boy stuff. Crazy is just soo happy to
finally be getting the sister she has been praying for since she was 4 years
old. With Luca being so out of sorts and needing so much of our time and
energy, the adoption is on hold for a few years, we need to concentrate on the
kids we have here and now so that when we are functioning normally again we
will have that same time and energy to devote to our adopted child. We will do it, just not for a few years
yet.
So that’s it, the story is up to date, we are still a bunch
of nutters living in a crazy house in a crazy world, but were happy, healthy
and managing (just about). I love my
family even with all the madness, it proves every day the love we have for each
other, the passion we have for life and its challenges, the strength we have
within us, the bond we all have, and most of all, the unconditional love we
have for our children, really what more could you want in life, money is
nothing, happiness is everything, and were happy, broke but happy, life is
good.